Disadvantages of being Sapiosexual when High Intelligence Levels make you "thirst" for Knowledge always.
I think this is a very important topic to talk about because, I myself have been searching all over the internet for a post that outlines the struggles that Sapiosexual individuals experience from this unrelenting inclination to be attracted to people that are highly intelligent and things that are highly complex.
If you strip sapiosexuality down to its simplest form, it really could be seen as an attraction to high levels of complexity. The excitement gained from being given the permission to navigate someone's mind requires mental mastery...or simply an interest in playing around in mazes and minefields.
Therefore, being attracted to the convoluted or somewhat obfuscated state of a highly intelligent person's mind, also requires high levels of intelligence in the seeker of this experience, the self described "sapiosexual person" themselves.
Now, this is not a research article so I can neither prove, nor disprove the validity of what I am saying here but this is a snapshot of the common challenges faced by people who are navigating life from a sapiosexual lens and the common issues they have to deal with on the daily basis:
So, essentially, the bane of any Sapiosexual Person's existence includes at least one or all of the following:
Randomly having "crushes" on people that teach you things
As a sapiosexual person, your admiration for intellectual depth can often lead to unexpected emotional attachments. The act of learning from someone, whether they’re a mentor, a teacher, or simply a knowledgeable friend, can spark feelings of fascination and even infatuation. This can become complicated, especially if the "crush" is situational and not grounded in deeper compatibility.
Many are guilty of this of course. You’re sitting there, wide-eyed, as someone casually blows your mind with their depth of knowledge about philosophy, astrophysics or how to make jollof rice...
Randomly having strong feelings for anyone that allows you to express yourself.
Emotional and intellectual intimacy go hand in hand for you. When someone creates a safe space for you to share your thoughts, feelings, and ideas, it can feel overwhelmingly attractive. This openness can lead to strong attachments, even if the connection doesn’t have the foundation for a lasting bond.
Basing people's values on the content of their brain and neglecting the importance of personality and character.
The allure of someone’s intellect can sometimes overshadow other critical aspects of their personality. While their intelligence might captivate you, it’s easy to overlook red flags or dismiss the importance of traits like kindness, integrity, or emotional availability; qualities essential for healthy friendships and relationships.
Being highly attracted to learning new highly complex things
...(that will most probably overwork you and get you stressed and/or burnt out)
Your passion for intellectual stimulation can become a double-edged sword. While you’re drawn to unraveling complexities and diving deep into challenging subjects, this insatiable hunger for knowledge can sometimes leave you feeling overworked, mentally drained, or even burnt out. The constant pursuit of understanding can take a toll on your well-being. You see a complex new subject, and your neurons light up like a Christmas tree. You dive in headfirst, determined to master it. Fast forward a few weeks, and there you are: overstimulated, overworked, and questioning why you thought learning quantum mechanics in your spare time was a good idea..at least your stress-induced existential crisis will be well-informed.
Getting randomly emotionally attracted to people you learn new things with.
Boundaries are so important when you are sapiosexual.
Collaborative learning or engaging in intellectually stimulating activities with others can lead to strong emotional connections. The shared experience of discovery and growth can blur the lines between admiration, friendship, and romantic interest, making it hard to distinguish genuine attraction from a situational bond.
When this happens, you have to ground yourself in logic and step away from the clouds.
Being attracted to the complexities of your own mind
You’re not just drawn to others’ intelligence, you’re also fascinated by your own thoughts and the intricacies of your inner world. This self-reflection can be both a source of pride and a challenge, as it may lead to overthinking, self-criticism, or difficulty finding others who can match your intellectual depth.
Sometimes you find yourself drawn to your intellectual "twins" and now you're stuck...
Being able to have an interesting conversation with (literally) any one.
Your ability to engage in stimulating conversations with almost anyone can make you feel constantly intrigued but it can also be overwhelming. Every meaningful interaction has the potential to feel like a connection, even if it’s fleeting or superficial, leaving you questioning the significance of these exchanges.
Well...you may have been hoping for recommendations on how to mitigate these struggles, right? My dear, we're all in the same boat, when you find out the solution to these conundrums, let me know too because I'm lost lol. In the meantime, it'll be love at first theory and intrigue at first factoid.
Anyway, until next time.
Warm wishes,
Remen